This question bothers me, it distresses me and it hurts me. I will explain
why.
Just image being on alert the whole time soldiers face when on active duty and people who live in a conflict zone have it to.
Just image waiting for the phone to ring and you would have to drop everything and leave your house never knowing when and if you will return, the cities of Europe went through this in WW2, the citizens of Europe went through this during the communist and fascist rule.
Just image listening to your husband, wife, child, partner, parent or pet’s breath and having to listen to irregularities just in case something changes and HAVING to call a doctor then and there.
Just image when your husband, wife, child, partner, parent or pet stumbles and you HAVE to think is the fall normal OR is there something more serious and HAVING to call a doctor then and there.
Just image if your husband, wife, child, partner, parent or pet get a cut and it does not start to repair itself after 10 minute and HAVING to call a doctor then and there to check what to do.
IF the doctor stays it’s okay, so be it (you only hope their decision is correct, they’ve got it wrong before). If the doctor says take them to hospital then off you go as FAST as you can.
Have you watched a lawn or a plant change through lack of water. Have any of you watched a tree change in autumn, how it sheds its leaves slowly. These changes are clear. Living with a child with cancer is living with the unknown, wondering and hoping that the pain that you are putting the child through is worth it. Wondering if the cancer is spreading or if it has been contained.
So when people ask ‘How is your daughter?’, we can only give the answer at that split second in time AND even then we do not know what is going on inside her. If people want to know how she is mentally, please ask that question ‘How is she feeling’ or something similar. We cannot answer the question ‘How is your daughter physically’ because until the situation is resolved we simply do not know.
And to answer the question, 'How is my daughter?' at this very moment in time she is happy.
Just image being on alert the whole time soldiers face when on active duty and people who live in a conflict zone have it to.
Just image waiting for the phone to ring and you would have to drop everything and leave your house never knowing when and if you will return, the cities of Europe went through this in WW2, the citizens of Europe went through this during the communist and fascist rule.
Just image listening to your husband, wife, child, partner, parent or pet’s breath and having to listen to irregularities just in case something changes and HAVING to call a doctor then and there.
Just image when your husband, wife, child, partner, parent or pet stumbles and you HAVE to think is the fall normal OR is there something more serious and HAVING to call a doctor then and there.
Just image if your husband, wife, child, partner, parent or pet get a cut and it does not start to repair itself after 10 minute and HAVING to call a doctor then and there to check what to do.
IF the doctor stays it’s okay, so be it (you only hope their decision is correct, they’ve got it wrong before). If the doctor says take them to hospital then off you go as FAST as you can.
Have you watched a lawn or a plant change through lack of water. Have any of you watched a tree change in autumn, how it sheds its leaves slowly. These changes are clear. Living with a child with cancer is living with the unknown, wondering and hoping that the pain that you are putting the child through is worth it. Wondering if the cancer is spreading or if it has been contained.
So when people ask ‘How is your daughter?’, we can only give the answer at that split second in time AND even then we do not know what is going on inside her. If people want to know how she is mentally, please ask that question ‘How is she feeling’ or something similar. We cannot answer the question ‘How is your daughter physically’ because until the situation is resolved we simply do not know.
And to answer the question, 'How is my daughter?' at this very moment in time she is happy.
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